Asalamualaikum,
You’ve made it this far
— and I want you to know something:
It’s not the big gestures that make caregiving easier.
It’s the "tiny upgrades" that stack up.
It’s the "tiny upgrades" that stack up.
Little shifts in your routine, tone, and mindset…
that ease the pressure and preserve dignity.
Today, we’ll share 3 simple upgrades that make a huge difference — for your parent and for you.
Upgrade #1: Set a 2-Hour Hydration Reminder
This is your secret weapon.
Most elderly parents
don’t drink enough water.
And they won’t unless reminded gently.
Here’s a sample to start with:
Set an alarm on your phone: every 2 hours
Offer half a paper cup (about 100ml)
Use warm water with lemon if they dislike plain water
Stop around 8pm to reduce night toilet trips
Why this helps:
- Fewer headaches
- Less constipation
- Improved mood
- Better sleep
- Fewer falls at night
Or follow suggested picture below by Sister Azura.
Steal this. Daily routine and hydration schedule.
Upgrade #2: Use Warmth + Familiarity in Your Voice
You don’t need to be perfect.
But you DO NEED to be present.
Tone matters more than words.
And rushed speech sounds like rejection.
Start simple...
Sit down. Make eye contact.
Say their name gently. Smile.
Speak slowly, like you're telling a story — not giving instructions.
Example:
Instead of: “Mak, cepatlah makan ubat tu.”
Try: “Mak… ubat yang Mak suka tu ada. Saya suap sikit-sikit boleh?”
Why this helps:
It reduces resistance. Builds trust.
And brings back the emotional bond that keeps both hearts soft.
Sometimes, your parent may not hear you well. Sound Sudah Rosak
No need to shout — it won’t help.
Just take a deep breath, stay calm, and try simple gestures instead:
Thumbs up for yes
Shake your head gently for no
Place your hand on theirs when words fail.
This is still your parent. Treat them with the same softness they once used on you.
Upgrade #3: Use Daycare, Rehab, or Respite Without Guilt or Part-time Homage.sg
You don’t have to do this alone.
There are services to help — even if only for a few hours a week:
- Morning rehab sessions
- Short-term respite stays (via AIC)
Call them. Ask questions. Don’t wait until you collapse.
Reply to us if you have suggestion or question.
Why this helps:
- Gives you time to breathe
- Helps your parent socialize and move
- Prevents long-term resentment and burnout
This isn’t abandonment.
It’s sustainable love.
It’s sustainable love.
Tomorrow is our final email.
We’ll share best practices that keep your family grounded, especially when things get emotionally heavy.
You’re doing better than you think.
Rest when needed.
Return to Allah for help.
Wassalam,
Shahib & Azura
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